Better together: A couple’s guide to sexual wellness that actually works

Men’s sexual health has a tendency to be viewed as a solo project. They see their provider alone, fill their prescriptions alone, and manage their treatments without ever looping in the person who matters most.

Your partner is already part of this equation. Whether you’re managing ED, working on timing, or just looking to improve your overall experience together, the outcomes get better when both of you are involved.

Research in sexual medicine consistently shows that couples who communicate about sexual health and approach it as a shared priority report higher satisfaction on both sides of the relationship.

This guide breaks the experience down into stages, because great sex is more than one moment. Each phase has its own dynamics, and each one can be improved with the right approach.

Foreplay deserves more than an afterthought

Here’s what the research says: both men and women want more foreplay than they’re currently getting.

A study of heterosexual couples found that the ideal duration of foreplay was significantly longer than the actual duration for both genders. On average, couples spend about 12 minutes on foreplay, but both partners report wanting more.

There’s a reason for this: foreplay serves a real physiological purpose. It increases blood flow, promotes natural lubrication, and heightens sensitivity for both partners.

Rushing past it, or skipping it entirely (which becomes more common in long-term relationships), shortens the entire experience and reduces satisfaction for everyone involved.

This is where a warming arousal gel can change the dynamic.

Warming Arousal Gels (like Promescent’s) create a gentle warming sensation that builds gradually and heightens sensitivity for both partners.

A few practical tips:

• Start small. Apply a modest amount and let the warming sensation develop. Individual sensitivity varies, and you can always add more.
• Use it on both partners. This is a shared experience, not a one-sided product.
• Treat it as the opening act. Apply it early and let it set the tone for the rest of the evening. The warming effect builds over a few minutes and makes everything that follows feel more intentional.

Foreplay that involves a product both partners can feel turns it from a step “in the way” to something you both look forward to.

During intimacy: more time, more comfort, better results

Two things cut most sexual encounters shorter than either partner wants: timing and physical comfort. Both are fixable.

When it comes to timing, most couples report wanting longer. Surveys and studies find that among heterosexual couples, sex often does not last long enough for the female partner to reach orgasm. Wanting more time together is one of the most common and most addressable concerns in sexual wellness.

PopStar Delay Spray is a doctor-formulated topical spray with 10% lidocaine that temporarily reduces sensitivity just enough to extend the experience.

It absorbs quickly, works within about 10 minutes of application, and lasts through intercourse. Apply it before foreplay begins, and by the time you’re ready for sex, it’s fully absorbed. Your partner won’t feel the numbing effect, but you’ll both notice the extra time.

When it comes to comfort, many couples don’t use lubricant because they assume it signals a problem. The opposite is true.

Sexual medicine specialists recommend quality lubricant as standard practice regardless of age, arousal level, or treatment status. Dryness and friction reduce pleasure, cause discomfort, and can end things early.

Water-based lubes are a popular option that work with condoms, are easy to clean up, and don’t leave residue. Keep it within reach and use it throughout, not just at the start. Reapplying as needed keeps everything comfortable and extends the experience naturally.

The details your partner notices

There’s a side of sexual wellness most men don’t think about. Your partner does.

Taste is a real factor in the overall experience, especially for partners who are generous with oral sex. Most men don’t consider how diet, hydration, and supplementation affect these areas. Partners tend to notice, even if they don’t say anything.

There are supplements available like PopStar Volume + Taste that can support semen volume and improve taste. Popstar’s formula in particular includes zinc, L-arginine, pygeum, and other ingredients backed by reproductive health research. Two things to know:

It’s a daily supplement, not a one-time fix. Results build over several weeks of consistent use because semen production operates on a biological cycle.
It’s a courtesy to your partner as much as it is a confidence boost for you. Small investments in the details of the overall experience signal that you care about their side of things too.

Putting it all together: the Better Together bundle

Each of these products addresses a different phase of the experience. Together, they cover the full experience:

• Promescent Warming Arousal Gel for foreplay and shared sensation
• PopStar Delay Spray for extended timing and control
• PopStar Water-Based Lube for comfort throughout
• PopStar Volume + Taste for the details your partner notices

We put all four into one kit: the His + Hers Intimacy Kit. Bundled together so you can save more than 20% compared to buying each product separately.

Shop the His + Hers Intimacy Kit

Sexual health works better when both of you are invested in it. Start with the product that addresses your most immediate concern, and build from there. Or start with the full bundle and work through it together.

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