Ask Renée: Will You Be My Valentine?

February 1, 2019 | Category: Ask Renée

Dear Renée,

I am 81, my wife is 80 and it’s been a long time since my wife and I have made love. I feel like a 40-year-old again but she says there’s no sexual feeling when we’re in bed. Give me a hint to get her wanting it again.

Concerned His Asking for Sex Triggers Excuse

Dear CHASTE,

Sisyphus was a dedicated man aimed at taming a rock and its roll. Although your plight looks bright, you’ve got your own battle to tackle. Now that you’ve wrangled your rock, it’s time to perfect your roll… and just in time for Valentine’s Day.

Ah, V-Day: an annual feast of sex and romance made for the hungry bodies of greedy lovers. But you’re not packing the only chubby cherub in town. Need a little boost doing the deed? Cupid’s here to help rig the jig.

Before setting off the fireworks, do your diligence: ask your wife what she means by loss of “sexual feeling.”

This Valentine’s Day is dedicated to you, CHASTE. But before setting off the fireworks, do your diligence: ask your wife what she means by loss of “sexual feeling.” If it sounds like something may be going on beyond feeling rusty, gently explore your options and and consider a simple visit to her doctor. But if she wants to want sex, give the three-armed salute to the Angel of Eros and make it happen.

Your first task: getting to the heart of your wife’s desires.

Sex is the crescendo of well-won wooing. It may be the favorable outcome but whoa there, cowboy; no skipping ahead, no rebuttal of the subtle. Your first task: getting to the heart of your wife’s desires. Been awhile? Run her through the highlight reel or your sexiest trysts. Remind her of erotic evocations you’ll never forget. Meld those moments with pleasurable tastes, intoxicating aromas and sultry sounds to awaken her body’s senses in a natural, low-pressure way. Come on, you know this. Draw back your bow and let your arrow go.

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