Ask Renée: Can’t Ejaculate, Lost My Girl

April 11, 2019 | Category: Ask Renée

Dear Renée,

I am successfully using injectable Trimix, and getting super erections. Unfortunately I lost my girlfriend as the Trimix is also causing me to not ejaculate. She felt responsible even after I explained that Trimix can cause this side effect. Advice on how to handle this with future relationships?

Unforeseen Problem

Dear UP,

All of the thrill and none of the spill? Some women might call that a win, UP. Don’t let a silly rejection kill your “super erection.”

Love and sex are complicated. We all have our quirks. But good lovin’ is a mutual exchange of pleasure and a sack sesh shouldn’t make you feel inadequate.

Put simply: your missing jism could be her rationalism.

Your relationship didn’t end because you were unable to ejaculate. Consciously or not, your lack of load may have been a justifying excuse for her own feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. Put simply: your missing jism could be her rationalism. That said, if you miss the grand finale fiesta, talk to your doc, because there may be a treatment adjustment to help unkink the hose. Erectile regimens often need tweaking so no shame in getting it right. But if it’s not a thing for you, UP, it shouldn’t be for anyone else.

Go over the disclosure. It’s these sorts of shares that deepen intimacy and grow trust.

So no wallowing; it’s time for Mission Move On. Suss out an empathetic partner worthy of your noble knob. Green light qualities include: warmth, openness and understanding. You know, the usual feel-good stuff that take the pressure off and makes you feel desired, attractive and free. And if you’re up for a vulnerability challenge, a little, um, head’s up will go a long way. Go over the disclosure. It’s these sorts of shares that deepen intimacy and grow trust. And have a little faith; what once was a deal-breaker may just broker the deal.

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